Our parents taught us important life lessons when we were young to aid us in navigating the challenges of adulthood.
But as we become older, we start to understand that these ideals might not always line up with the way the world actually is, despite their good intentions. Our eyes are opened to a completely new viewpoint as we get older.
“Give me the money, I’ll keep it for you”
When a guest comes here to our house, they usually give the kids some cash as they leave. Normally, your mother will ask you to bring the money so she can store it for you, but growing up, we discovered that this is a big deception.
“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”
We were told that mastering the art of cooking is necessary for both our survival and securing a man’s love. The truth is that a man’s love is not entirely based on his ability to prepare food. One formula does not apply to all men since not all men love women who cook and not all men adore women who work. No matter how well you cook, if someone truly loves you, they will cook for you. Even though learning to cook is useful, it does not make you marriage material.’
“When I spit on the floor and you don’t return early, your navel will varnish”
When we were little, our mothers would warn us, “When I spit on the floor and you don’t come back early, your navel will varnish.” This is when your mother expects you to complete an assignment on time. This myth has been spread over time because, when we were little, we enjoyed playing a lot, especially when running errands for our mothers, and this phrase frightened us.
“If you do everything right in your marriage, your husband won’t cheat.”
Infidelity is a complex issue and often has little to do with a partner’s actions. Blaming yourself for your spouse’s choices is unfair and unhelpful. A faithful partner will remain faithful, and if cheating occurs, it’s a reflection of their choices, not your worth or actions. Life is unpredictable, what works for you might not work for the next person. The most important thing is to make sure we discover our own path and follow it.
“If you are a good girl, you will have a good marriage.”
Contrary to popular opinion, character is not the only factor in determining whether a marriage will succeed. Marriage and love are complicated, and they don’t always go in the same manner. It takes work from both partners to maintain a good marriage, and being ‘good’ does not guarantee a successful partnership.
Source: Ghana/MaxTV/MaxFM/max.com.gh/Belinda Quansah
