Are you in a long-term relationship that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere?
You and your partner share certain aspects of life, perhaps, you even live together, enjoy spending time with each other, the intimacy is fulfilling, yet you feel no closer to seeing a future with him than you did when you first started dating.
I present to five signs to know if he would marry you or not;
1. He avoids talking about the future
Is your partner all for discussing weekend plans and your next getaway, but the moment you bring up the future, he changes the subject, laughs it off, or offers a vague response? This is a clear red flag that is unsure about or scared of committing to you for life.
2. He treats the relationship like an option, not a priority
Any guy who treats you like an option—something to fill his time with when he has nothing better going on in his life—rather than a priority is sure as hell not even thinking about marrying you. When a man is truly committed to you, he steps up and shows up for you without being asked to.
3. His actions don’t match his words
If he talks a big game but doesn’t actually take concrete action in that direction, he may just be stringing you along, much like Leslie’s ex, without making any real commitment. A big red flag that a guy is not ready to commit is that he talks about marriage or assures you that he wants to marry you but then doesn’t follow it up with concrete action like a proposal or keeps postponing making definitive plans on one pretext or the other.
4. You feel like you’re begging for his commitment
If you’ve been dropping hints—from “accidentally” leaving a page on ring designs open on his laptop to telling him heart-melting proposal stories—but he isn’t taking the bait, it can make you feel like you’re begging for his commitment and he is not ready to yield. This can lead to a lot of frustration and resentment in the relationship. Perhaps, instead of waiting for him to come around, it’s time you accept your boyfriend doesn’t want to get married.
5. He’s afraid of marriage
If you’re with a guy who talks about marriage as if it’s a prison sentence, constantly mentions failed marriages or how many divorces he’s seen, know that he won’t be proposing anytime soon.
ref: Bonobology
