If you feel you can talk to your partner about things, then you may find it useful to try to have an open, honest conversation.
We know that talking about sex can be tricky and sometimes awkward, but it can also be a great way to begin to move towards a sense of mutual understanding. And it can also head off damage in the long term by allowing you to work out any resentment before it grows and gets worse.
It can take courage to say no to someone, but would you rather say no to others or yourself? When pressured into having sex, we deny ourselves the fundamental right to say no. If you say yes, you’ll be dealing with all the negative emotions of the aftermath.
What is sexual coercion?
On the surface, sexual coercion seems simple enough. It’s essentially when you’re forced to have sex despite not wanting to. It gets tricky because everyone is different, and being pressured into having sex can sometimes be very subtle.
You always have the right to say no to sex. Sexual control is pressuring a partner to do things they don’t want to do sexually. It can happen to anyone of any gender or sexual orientation.
Here are some examples of sexual control in relationships:
1. trying to get your partner to do something they don’t want to do sexually
2. threatening to break up with someone if they don’t have sex with you
3. having sex with someone too drunk or high to consent to having sex
4. forcing someone to have sex
Some people think if they’re in love or if they’re married, they can’t say no to sex. But that’s not true. No matter what kind of relationship you’re in, if you’re forced to have sex, it’s rape. If you’re forced to do something else sexually, it’s sexual assault.
You don’t deserve to be treated this way. So run.
culled from wires
Source: Ghana/MaxTV/MaxFM/max.com.gh/Belinda Quansah
