Planning a wedding is such an exciting time for couples, but after the pomp and ceremony of the big day dies down, it can cause a reality check for some.

Gaps can appear when couples have not discussed and agreed on how the finances are arranged, how free time is spent, or when parenting styles have not been agreed on.

This can cause conflict further down the line for couples. Another very common topic that couples tend to shy away from is how they feel about intimacy and what intimacy means to each partner.

It is worth noting that you’re not just marrying your person; you’re also marrying into each other’s families’ traditions, values, and dynamics.

It’s also important to have your own boundaries respected when it comes to blending into your in-laws’ lives without compromising on your own values or losing yourself in the process.

The first year of marriage doesn’t have to define your destiny, but it can be revealing.