They say that marriages are formed in paradise, but it is up to us to make them work. Most couples disregard the subtle but significant differences between remaining together and actually living together. You only truly “live” with and get to know someone inside and out after getting married. That explains why some relationships that have lasted for well over a decade end up in divorce, while others that have lasted for the bare minimum of time have a strong marriage.
Are you realizing that you and your SO aren’t having enough sex as time goes on? Are the sexual encounters traumatic? You are not reaching the peak while you wish to? It is all about giving and nothing in return? You frequently desire to engage in physical closeness but your partner refuses to let you? If the answer to each of these questions is yes, you might be stuck in a rut for good.
Below are some of the problems encountered between a couple that does not engage in intimacy;
Misunderstandings
Lack of sex in marriage sure has some serious implications, one of them being misunderstandings. The frustration can mount and take form in other ways when you or your significant other are upset about something. That sexual frustration now boils up to the top and messes things up even more. Instead of fighting and arguing, one of you can take a deep breath and wait 10 seconds before you respond.
Feelings of isolation
Sometimes, sexless marriages can run their course faster than they would have otherwise. Feelings of isolation owing to self-esteem issues can start creeping up. Overall affection and emotional intimacy can take a hit and can also up to the extent of ending up in separation or divorce. If you are feeling lonely, and anxious and want to lock yourself out of the world, it’s time you hit up your friends and family before you go further into the dark hole.
Infidelity
Infidelity typically means engaging in sexual or romantic relations with a person other than one’s significant other, breaking a commitment or promise in the act. One cannot deny the need for intimacy as humans. When a person isn’t getting that from their significant other, they are most likely to look for someone else to satisfy their urge leading to infidelity.
According to Dr. Chugh, it can be helpful to find out if there is anything about you that is causing him or her to retreat and lose their libido. You can use constructive criticism to reflect on and improve yourself. Tell your lover how this lack of sex is affecting you and how important the relationship is to you.
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